Once upon a time, a bla, bla, bla……. So, Cinderella and the prince lived happily ever after, the end. That was a Disney story some kids, including the 3 years old version of me, used to read. A story always ends with a good ending, otherwise kids won’t like it. The fact is, life ain’t just a story. It’s a journey of thousands miles starting from Luh Mahfuz till the day we die when we’ll return to Him the Almighty. Happy ending or not depends on what we do throughout our lives. If good it is then good we’ll get but if it’s the opposite, then take ur time n think about it. Simple and annoying we may think it is but what u’re about to read is definitely something that’ll make u think again n again.
“Glory to Allah, Who created in pairs all things that the earth produces, as well as their own (human) kind and (other) things of which they have no knowledge”
Yasin (36): 36
Starting to read my point I think u have. Teenagers are those who have just finished childhood and are on the brink of entering adulthood. We (I’m 19 btw) face lots of new things; learn how to live independently, how to manage daily life, etc. So sometimes we feel like the pressure is too much for us, that we need someone who could help us or at least share our problem with. Unfortunately though, we tend to find someone of different gender. That’s where everything might (most of the times) go wrong. See, I’ve no doubt that the exact reason why we tend to do so is because of ‘he’ (that ungrateful creature who disobeyed His orders) has been whispering things into our unstable mind.
“Nor come nigh to adultery: for it is a shameful (deed) and an evil, opening the road (to other evils)”
Al-Isra’ (17): 32
Yes, without any objection I agree that there’s no problem with having a friend of different gender as long as we know and don’t cross the limits. I myself have female friends too. But what’s with those couple and dating things? Come on, we still eat from our fathers’ salary. So why pretend like we’re big enough to ‘raise’ our own ‘family’. Grow up please. If you still haven’t fed your parents with your own money, why bother feeding others? They raised us for years so they deserve it first. Wherever we are now is because of them. Besides, couple and dating is a waste. You waste your money, time and possibly your future for someone who not necessarily will be your life partner. If you say that ‘kalau tak cari, camne jodoh nak datang?’, then that is one pathetic, lame excuse. If you are serious in making her/him your life partner, then what/who’s stopping you from doing so? If your answer is ‘aku muda lagi’, then you know you’re still young so why trap yourself in these ‘monkey love’ problems. Why don’t you just focus on your studies? Why not wait till you earn your own salary so that you can buy him/her things instead of using your parents’ money?
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| 'Hot' couple, just like those i'm talking about |
Some may think that having someone (a date/gf/bf/etc) will lessen the burden. Think again then I suggest. Firstly, of course you’ll have to text/call them every single day instead of using those time to study or those money you spent on ‘topups’ to treat your friends with lunch/dinner. Secondly, if you get into a fight/misunderstanding Secondly, if you get into a fight/misunderstanding you won’t be able to focus on your studies or more worryingly your obligatory salat. You’ll even waste your time thinking on how to entice him/her instead of using your intelligence to solve an addmath question. Thirdly, have you ever heard about ‘zina hati’ ? Surely you have. Fourthly, if one day you realize that he/she wasn’t the one and you break up with him/her, did you ever think of what will happen to him/her? After pouring millions of sweet words to him/her and in the end you just went away like that. Imagine how she/he’ll feel, imagine the guilt that’ll haunt you. Lastly, imagine the vice versa.
P/S: Some of you may say, ‘ko xde awek memang la ko ckp cmtu, dah xde org nak kat ko’, hahahahhaha….that may be true but I have to say what a narrow minded person you are. Call me a hypocrite but I kinda chose to be single and I’m proud of it.
"Truly, my prayer and my service of sacrifice, my life and my death, are (all) for Allah, the Cherisher of the Worlds"
Al-An’am (6):162
“And Allah has made for you mates (and companions) of your own nature, and made for you, out of them, sons and daughters and grandchildren, and provided for you sustenance of the best: will they then believe in vain things, and be ungrateful for Allah.s favours?”
An-Nahl (16): 72
