Walk The Talk or Just Talk, talk and talk?

How powerful words are. Perfectly said words could change the whole world with a blink of an eye. Words could change the way someone think, it could hurt someone’s feelings, and it could cheer someone up. How fascinating is it that just by arranging certain number of alphabets could have such significant impact on human’s lives.  And by mistyping or accidentally switching between just two alphabets from its supposed place could bring a whole different meaning.

The ability to talk itself is a blessing let alone the skills to voice out speeches or words of wisdom to inspire others. The right choice of adjectives, the accurate use of idioms or proverbs or the wide-yet-understandable vocabularies all plays a role in changing minds and perceptions, providing inspirations and motivations and affecting feelings and emotions. You don’t have to be a devout worshipper yet people might think you’re a pious preacher, you don’t have to be a leader you already have a legion of followers, you don’t have to start a fight your enemy will surrender much earlier. All of this just because of words.

Undeniably though, words could also do the exact opposite. Wrong choice of words, especially usually during the heat of the moment even if no harm was meant could break a heart more than a knife could cut it into pieces. Normal words if misinterpreted may also lead to calamity. We will never know what will be our last words or how people interpret them. So, why spread bad words, why spread lies, why insult, why hurt others, why talk behind others back? Wouldn’t it be better if people start talking to each other rather than talking about each other? Try making what comes out of our mouth beneficial for us and others so that one day when we die people will say, “What that person said changed my life”.

However, we are only responsible for what we say not what others understand. So despite all the words we’ve said, all those long speeches we gave and all those entries we post on our blogs, does it really picture our true selves? The advices we give to others do we ourselves follow them? Talking might be easy and giving a meaningful talk or speech might be hard but what’s harder is actually walking the talk. So, are we walking our talk or just talk and talk and talk?

Keep Calm and Control Your Emotions

When I was a kid, I once watched a TV drama which I can’t remember the title of that drama now. It was about a robot that had feelings, emotions, sense of humour and sensitivity. Of course that story was fictional because unlike humans, robots don’t have feelings.

Yes, feelings. Emotions as in sense of humour, sense of pain, tears of joy and so on. Some people may act like they don’t care if people make fun of them, tease them or hurt them emotionally. But when the threshold has been reached, even the quietest of people could explode louder than a volcano.

Because that’s what human are. We were born with emotions. It’s part of our nature to react to certain stimulus. To cry when we’re sad, to get angry when we’re mad, to laugh when we’re happy.  If the stimulus isn’t strong enough, we have the capability to keep our emotions to ourselves. When we’re in a normal state of emotions, it’s easy to be giving advices to others. Try telling the poor to be grateful, or telling a son, who just lost his father, not to cry, or telling someone not to be angry when they’re being laughed at.  So, unless we’ve been through what others have then we have no right to judge or blame them. Look at ourselves in the mirror and stop pointing fingers.

Numbers of reported suicide is increasing by day. The cause: depression, frustration, lost of hope, all are emotionally related. It’s all because we weren’t trained to face such kind of tests or problems. We’re drowned in an easy life such that even the slightest of problems could make us feel like we just fell from a 100-storey building. We have a weak heart to bear those problems. The inability to accept what has been written for us millions of years before we were born is what’s causing these mental depressions. We can try, we can plan but we can never escape from what has been planned for us.

Emotions are the difference between us and animals. But there’s also another difference between us and animals: the ability to think. To think the results of our actions before we react to certain stimulus. To think before making any decisions when we’re angry or making promises when we’re happy or any kind of actions that will make us look like a fool. A strong person is someone who can control his emotions in time of tests.  It’s easy to cry when we’re sad, to shout out someone when we’re angry and to blame everything on fate and destiny.

The ability to control one’s emotions is a good measure of how strong he is. Not expressing our emotions doesn’t make us less human. It just makes us less dependent. Plus, showing our emotions to others frequently means showing our own weaknesses to them. How many people would want to be friends with a high-tempered or an annoyingly-sensitive person? How can people place their trust on us if we ourselves are incapable of controlling our own emotions?

If You Can't Control Yourself, You Can't Control The World

Everything’s about technologies these days. From smart phones, androids to high class gadgets like i-pad, i-pod and a few other things that people use to know it as just fruits. Kids during my days use to play just gasing, pokemon cards, lawan pemadam, tamiya etc. You can consider someone rich enough if he has a mobile phone. Friendship and even relationships within the family gets a lot dull. We tend to fill our leisure times indoors rather than going out playing football or futsal or any other outdoor activities.

Social networks being used as a platform to project or voice out our frustrations, opinions, disappointment and all other kind of feelings to the world. Regretfully, some of us choose the wrong choice of words/actions that we later feel very bad about. Some cursing, provocations, insult that could’ve hurt others in which unintentionally happen due to the heat of the moment. Some of us might’ve even accidentally told the whole world something that we, in a normal state of mind, would not have done so. When we regain our consciousness and wished we could change what we just did/said, there’s no point in crying over spilt milk anymore is there?


Perhaps we shouldn’t have used internet as a place to voice out our expressions in the first place should we? Why should we when first, the whole world would know about something that’s suppose to be private and confidential. Second, why should we tell or in some case complain our problems, disappointments, frustrations to those who can’t understand and some who won’t even care when we could always tell it to He who could help us. Someone once told me that,

“In times of test, family is the best”

and he also said,

“If you have a broken heart, friends make the best glue”

“Apabila hamba-hambaKu bertanya kepadamu (Muhammad) tentang Aku, maka sesungguhnya Aku hamper. Aku memperkenankan permohonan orang yang meminta jika dia meminta kepadaKu. Maka hendaklah mereka menyahut seruanKu serta beriman kepadaKu supaya mereka sentiasa berada dalam kebenaran”

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